« What greater wisdom can there be than kindness? » Jean Jacques Rousseau
Some time ago, I was scrolling through my emails when one headlined “Productivity Tips,” caught my eye. Since I wasn’t feeling productive, I decided to check out the video it featured. I’m so glad I did! Because it wasn’t about productivity at all. It was about not feeling productive.
It was an honest, candid admission by a writing coach who prides herself on being a highly productive, overachiever about how she’d run into a technical snafu on a project and was feeling overwhelmed.
She really had only one bit of advice to give: Be kind to yourself. And that’s what she was going to do herself that day: Instead of a forced march toward a goal she’d set for herself, she was going to give herself a different day. She was going to take a break — and later that evening, she was going to call an old friend and watch a movie with her and they were going to talk about it over the phone and just have fun. How wise!
In this same spirit, along with doing our best to help each other through these trying times, let’s also be kind to ourselves, let’s also help ourselves as we would a friend:
Let’s be kind to ourselves when we’re not feeling all that productive. If we can’t push through it, let’s just give ourselves permission to take a break and go back later. More often than not, just relaxing and having a little fun will help us get back on track.
Let’s be kind to ourselves when we’re feeling forgetful. Focusing takes a lot more energy these days, doesn’t it? So if you are not on top of everything — if you’re scattered and forgetful, simply be OK with it and go on. It’s OK, Karin. It’s OK, I tell myself.
Let’s be kind to ourselves when we our usual strategies for keeping anxiety at bay don’t seem to be working. Keeping busy is a way of coping with anxiety for many of us, including myself. And maybe you, too. But sometimes these tools we use don’t work. When that happens, why not admit it and try again later? And then, renewed, write on!