“With time and patience the mulberry leaf becomes a silk gown.”
Finding a way to connect with my body and get out of my head for a bit has become important for me lately. One solution: a weekly Yoga class with a lovely teacher named Rebecca. At the end of one session, she asked us all to silently say to ourselves, “I am kind and patient with myself.” She also encouraged us to take this thought out into the world.
“I am kind and patient with myself.” It’s so relaxing and peaceful, isn’t it? After a while, I came up with a slightly different version for my writing projects: “I am kind and patient with my work.”
Here’s one definition of patience: “steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.” And here’s a definition of steadfast: “firm in belief, determination, or adherence: loyal.”
So what do we have here? Standing fast in the face of difficulty. Holding firm in our belief and determination. Remaining loyal to our goal and ourselves. Being kind to ourselves. Giving our work the time it needs to change, grow, and blossom into something deserving of our effort and worthy of admiration.
Patience is also about not letting frustration or the urge for a quick fix get the better of us when we hit a roadblock. It’s about being willing to honor our work even when the results of our work don’t seem to be honoring the energy we’re putting into it. And it’s about accepting the fact that, as a wise guide once said to me, “You can’t push the river.”
“I’ve become more tolerant and patient with myself” — this comment from Steve, one of my blog readers, sums all this up perfectly.
How can we turn our mulberry leaves into silk gowns? Let’s give our work the time it needs and take these words to heart: “I am kind and patient with myself.”