“Have patience with yourself. You have big dreams and big goals and are doing everything right, but you are probably frustrated that things are taking so long. Lighten up on yourself, while you keep working. Learning things, planning things, and doing things all take time if we do them right. Give yourself credit for what you have done and will do and take pride in the fact that you are doing all you can do, rather than focus on what hasn’t been done. Your life will go a lot smoother and you will enjoy life more, which is what it is all about anyway.”
These uplifting words arrived in via e-mail just recently — and it seemed to be written just for me. They are from Bright Moments, a daily inspirational message that Ed Smith sends out, which I read every day. So often I find an idea that’s helpful — I hope you’ll check out Ed’s site and sign up for his daily dose of cheer and support (BrightMoments.com).
Have patience — what a great message for us as writers! Producing works of fiction or nonfiction takes time. All too often, progress seems slow — or even non-existent. We get stuck. We get discouraged. Instead of just accepting these moments as part of the creative process, we can get frustrated and impatient with ourselves. This is a big issue for me: I tend to be very impatient. I walk quickly, talk quickly, and sometimes don’t listen very well. I like forward motion. When things move slowly, I can lose patience very quickly. Yet so often, patience is exactly what’s needed to move ahead deliberately and intelligently.
Here’s my favorite Webster’s definition of patience: “steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.” Here is the Oxford English definition: “the capacity to tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without becoming angry or upset.” And finally, here are some synonyms for the word patient: persevering, persistent, tenacious, indefatigable, dogged, determined, resolved, resolute, single-minded. Surely, we need to be all these things and more to achieve our goals as authors and to write dangerously. So let’s let patience work for us, rather than let impatience work against us. Write on!