Be Kind

“Be kind, for everyone is fighting a hard battle.”

“What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?”
George Eliot

“Have you had a kindness shown? Pass it on.”
Henry Burton

Here’s a cautionary note from a seasoned author that we might all pay heed to: Choose the people who give you feedback on your writing with care. This advice isn’t really surprising when you consider how hard it can be to find really constructive insights and advice. And how hurtful people can sometimes be — often mistakenly.

This is one reason why a solid, serious writing group is so valuable. And why you need to take just about everything that anyone says to you about your writing with a grain of salt. Or, as Walt Whitman put it so well: ‘Re-examine all you have been told…Dismiss what insults your Soul.” In other words, trust your own intuition and stay true to your own intention.

When I started pondering all this, a few simple “rules of the road” came to me. These might prove helpful whether you’re giving or receiving feedback:

Be kind: Writing is hard work and anyone who takes on the challenge should be treated tenderly and worthily — and given the full measure of our attention and support.

Be balanced: One of my writing buddies said that in her MFA program, people were encouraged to refrain from trying to “fix” someone else’s work. Instead, they were asked to say, “Here’s what worked for me in this piece — and here’s what didn’t.” This seems like a good approach, doesn’t it? It’s personal, but neutral at the same time, without resorting to, “I didn’t like this or that.”

Be upbeat: If you have an idea for a more powerful ending or a better transition, then, by all means, pass it on. Just avoid couching it in terms of “fixing.” Instead, you might talk about strengthening a passage or increasing its dramatic impact, or about considering another approach. You get the idea.

As you share your insights with your fellow scribes, take this thought from Jean-Jacque Rousseau as your touchstone and all will be well: “What wisdom can you find that is greater than kindness?” Armed with these wise words, let’s all write on!

About karinwritesdangerously

I am a writer and this is a motivational blog designed to help both writers and aspiring writers to push to the next level. Key themes are peak performance, passion, overcoming writing roadblocks, juicing up your creativity, and the joys of writing.
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